Letting Go - Part 1

Dear Whoever -It-May-Concern,

There was this kind of relationship where you were truly connected to your partner. There was love on both sides, well..., at least in the beginning I would say. BUt unfortunately, your partner was loving you only part of the time. The rest of the time, the relationship was hurtful and damaging. The relationship is behind you, whether you realise it or not, although you constantly tell the others (eg: your current girl friend) that you've already forgot about your ex, but deep down inside, you are still having trouble letting go emotionally. I'm talking about emotionally here. Which mean, although you are not physically with your ex anymore, but... but... he or she still has a place in your heart. Whether you knew it, or not.

(n/b: she in this article could be substitute with he, whichever is applicable)

So how do you let go of someone, your-ex, whos is still breathing but who is not good for you?

One thing you have to know that, your partner would have give you all you wanted, the stars and moon and the diamonds and the rings if he/she could. Even though she appeared to hurt you, with or without intention, she was always doing the best she could. Understand that, she never intentionally hurt you, (even if she cheats on you).

To let go of your past relationship, forive your ex, forgive yourself, and undertand that her behavious is not your fault. UNderstand thath all of her behaviours comprise all of her person. Sometimes she is wonderful (that's why you have the thought of getting married with her), sometimes she is horrible. And all of the time she was who she is. There is no way you can only have her good side. Her bad side was hurtful. Her bad side was awful. BUt it's the end of story. So let your ex off the hook.

There is something we can do to honour and cherish the true connection between the two of you. Send thoughts of peace, healing and joy to your ex whenever your past relationship cross your mind. Well I personally did that and I feel better. Whenever you miss her, send her love. YOu might he reluctant, you might be hesitant to do what is stated above. You may be afraid that it will make you go back into the relationship with your ex. But no, no, no.

The reason for honouring your connection is not to somehow bring your ex back to you. Instead, by honouring a good relationship, you become free of nager you feel towards her. Someone asked me whether am I angry with the way that my ex treated me. My answer is: I don't feel it at all now. By honouring the gifts, the joy that she did gave you, instaed of focusing on what she did not give you, you will begin to feel peace and gratitude.

Over time, freeing yourself of anger at your ex will give you the ability to attract and create the extraordinary relationship you want, of course, with someone else. Someone who is greater :)

Love, P