Letting Go - Part 1

Dear Whoever -It-May-Concern,

There was this kind of relationship where you were truly connected to your partner. There was love on both sides, well..., at least in the beginning I would say. BUt unfortunately, your partner was loving you only part of the time. The rest of the time, the relationship was hurtful and damaging. The relationship is behind you, whether you realise it or not, although you constantly tell the others (eg: your current girl friend) that you've already forgot about your ex, but deep down inside, you are still having trouble letting go emotionally. I'm talking about emotionally here. Which mean, although you are not physically with your ex anymore, but... but... he or she still has a place in your heart. Whether you knew it, or not.

(n/b: she in this article could be substitute with he, whichever is applicable)

So how do you let go of someone, your-ex, whos is still breathing but who is not good for you?

One thing you have to know that, your partner would have give you all you wanted, the stars and moon and the diamonds and the rings if he/she could. Even though she appeared to hurt you, with or without intention, she was always doing the best she could. Understand that, she never intentionally hurt you, (even if she cheats on you).

To let go of your past relationship, forive your ex, forgive yourself, and undertand that her behavious is not your fault. UNderstand thath all of her behaviours comprise all of her person. Sometimes she is wonderful (that's why you have the thought of getting married with her), sometimes she is horrible. And all of the time she was who she is. There is no way you can only have her good side. Her bad side was hurtful. Her bad side was awful. BUt it's the end of story. So let your ex off the hook.

There is something we can do to honour and cherish the true connection between the two of you. Send thoughts of peace, healing and joy to your ex whenever your past relationship cross your mind. Well I personally did that and I feel better. Whenever you miss her, send her love. YOu might he reluctant, you might be hesitant to do what is stated above. You may be afraid that it will make you go back into the relationship with your ex. But no, no, no.

The reason for honouring your connection is not to somehow bring your ex back to you. Instead, by honouring a good relationship, you become free of nager you feel towards her. Someone asked me whether am I angry with the way that my ex treated me. My answer is: I don't feel it at all now. By honouring the gifts, the joy that she did gave you, instaed of focusing on what she did not give you, you will begin to feel peace and gratitude.

Over time, freeing yourself of anger at your ex will give you the ability to attract and create the extraordinary relationship you want, of course, with someone else. Someone who is greater :)

Love, P

Ignorance is Bliss

Ignorance is blissYou’d always hear me sayBut at times you can’t denyThose eyes looking your wayLet me begin by saying what I meanIt’s a crime against the heart you knowTo be somewhere in betweenWell don’t be shyI’ve got an open heart and handAnd I just might have to confess just where I standLately you make me weaker in the kneesAnd race through my veins baby every time you’re close to meTake me away to places I ain’t seenThey say you’ve got a hold on me…And I won’t disagreeRock-a-bye my babyDon’t be blue tonightOh I’m on my wayAnd I’m gonna make it rightCause I’ve got the feelingYou’ll be needing loveAnd of all the lonely heartsYou’re the one I’m thinking ofI’ve been told it’s gonna take an iron handTo break the mold and stand above all of the restI’ll be thinking of that eveningWhen there’s nothing for me to doAnd I’ll be wondering if by some slim chanceYou’ve been wondering too

A Shark Tale

I was spending a lovely lunch date with one of my gf at The Apartment last Thursday. When I was about to feed myself with my ordered Duck Meat Spaghetti, I received a phone call from Mr. G, saying that he couldn't pick me up later in the evening. I was upset no more but experiencing hypoglycemia when I was told that he was bitten by a shark! What?! A shark? My Ducky Spaghetti looks like what a bulimic patient has just thrown out suddenly.

The culprit is a Tawny Nurse Shark, also known as Giant Sleepy Shark. It was a blessing in disguise because this Tawny Nurse only got Mr. G's (upper) thigh but not anywhere else. *phew~~ He could have loss his life if the shark got him on his neck. What a fright!

It was also lucky because Tawny Nurse has only small mouth and small comb-like teeth. If it is anything like the one we watch on the movie Jaws, I could have fainted by just answering that phone call.

-Lucky enough-

Strawberry N.O.S.E

Strawberry, one of my favourite berry. I like it when it is one of the flavour in my favourite chocolate ice-cream. I like it, it could be make into shortcake. I like it to be spread on my plain toast. I even like it to eat it on its own.

A few weeks ago, I looked into a mirror. Oh it was such a disaster. I noticed my nose turned into my favourite strawberry. Except that bright red and green petal leaves. I was totally devastated (no joke okay). Black and white head all over. Just like how it looks like my favourite fruit, strawberry.

I am really frustrated because I've tried to get rid of them (the black and the white heads) of many times and yet they reappear. I even noticed that my pores are getting nothing but bigger thanks to constant force applied to remove those lil dirt out.

There's no sit down and relax when it comes to this kind of situation. Especially MY skin, MY face. Just a few days before the incident, I bought Shue Uemura High Performance Balancing Oil for a friend as one of her birthday gift. She strongly suggested that I should give that product a try. And I tried.

This is a 2-in-1 cleanser and make up remover. It claims that it thoroughly rids skin impurities which I found it very true because as I massage the oil in my face, I can feel the debris coming out and when I look at my palms, those tiny lil black and white thingy has already been removed :) Amazing, no?

30 Things that You Don't Know About Me, or maybe you might

1. My favourite is sunflower.
2. But I don't mind receiving roses.
   
3. I love bags and shoes.
   
4. I admire Chinese idioms and poems.
   
5. Despite I am being practical at most time, I would love to receive a teddy bear as a gift.
6. I used to listen to Velvet Revolver when I was 16.
7. I feel in love with Natalie Portman in Closer.
8. Since then I use the phrase 'Hey, stranger'.
9. I learned piano when I was 12. I quit because my teacher has bad breath.
   
10. My contact lens power are -4.75 (R) and -3.25 (L) respectively.
    
11. My first CD bought was Celine Dion's All the Way... A Decade of Song.
12. Iguazu Waterfall is one of the spot in my travel list.
13. I would like to get married at the age of 28.
14. I like to read when I have time.
15. Thinks Jude Law stinks but very juicy. VERY edible.
16. I can roll my tongue.
17. I have a thing for hairy stuffs.
18. I like pudding milk tea.
    
19. I like to dance with Rhythm & Blue.
20. Is exploring Anthony and the Johnsons now.
21. My ultimate emo song sung by Sia.
22. I am a perfume craze. I was once addicted to my Morgan eau de toilette.
    
23. I like the number 23.
24. I like musical very much.
25. I like to dress up for orchestra concert.
26. I like to dress up for romantic dinner treats.
27. I like Sunday matinee stage play. It feels more casual.
28. I like to flirt. Old habits die hard.
29. Has Impulsive Shopping Disorder claimed by if not 2 then 3 of my close friends.
30. I like lomography.

Miss U

I really miss my long hair lor

There is this kind of fruit which is very addictive.
It is called forbidden.